I keep getting personal calls and emails from this guy at work, which is coming between me and my new boyfriend. These calls and emails are just friendly, but the fact he keeps sending them is becoming an issue. I need to tell him to stop without offending him, because I have to work with him and want to be on good terms (and he's a nice guy).
- Antonia
Comments (4)
Wait, are you not allowed to have male friends now? Sorry to be so blunt, but this frankly sounds alarm bells for me.
Posted by Alex | April 4, 2008 6:12 PM
Hi Antonia,
If your work friend's interest is purely friendly, there's no need to be rude. Screen your calls and don't reply to his emails, but stay friendly at work. Even if he doesn't take the hint, he'll be contained.
Posted by Joolz | April 7, 2008 11:54 AM
Is he ringing your mobile phone or a landline?
Because if he's ringing your mobile, it's interesting that he's choosing to contact you in very direct ways, ie that bypass your boyfriend.
Maybe the thing to do is bring your boyfriend into the equation.
If the friendly guy is really that, just friendly, why can he be friendly with your boyfriend too?
Let your boyfriend answer the phone -- he can say you left your phone at his house, or you're in the shower, or something like that.
Or, if your friendly guy is trying to arrange social meetups, why not say yes -- and take your boyfriend. The more the merrier, surely?
It'll put your boyfriend's mind at rest. And if friendly guy's interest is in more than friends, the fact that he can only deal with you if he deals with your boyfriend as well should be enough to throw him off.
Posted by Elizabeth | April 7, 2008 12:00 PM
Thanks guys, you've been really helpful. We'll see how the screening my calls goes, and if they persist combine that with the 'boyfriend barrier'!
Posted by Antonia | April 10, 2008 3:14 PM